Living in a thin obsessed world with body decoration

It’s rife at the minute,

The obsession with thinness, 

The idealising of bodies,

The association that a certain weight, shape = health.

But it’s coming at the expense of your actual health.

Claims having you OBSESS over artificial sweeteners, inflammation, “clean eating” 

A sacrifice, disordered.

All to an achieve what? To shrink yourself, shrink yourself into beliefs you’ll then “be enough, be worthy”

The intention is based on fixing yourself, wrapped up in weight bias.

As if you’re some machine that has a missing part.

The reality is you’ll feel NO different in a smaller body unless you work on your body image, your food relationship.

Mounjaro, these latest fads may help fat loss, giving you a boost of confidence because you’re being validated by the scales..

But how do you live in your body? How do you feel in her? 

My body has been judged for years,

For her weight, shape, 

And for her decoration.

I’ve more stretch marks, excess skin, cellulite than most, my thighs touch because all of the above.

I achieved the pinnacle of fat loss, dropping to 53kg and here’s the thing, 

I still hated my body.

I couldn’t accept her “flaws” 

I went from calling myself “fat” to apologising for my “disgusting” skin. 

I was ashamed, 

But I’d achieved fat loss? 

You see my intention was all wrong,

And I subscribed to beliefs that were designed to lessen women,

That were built on unrealistic standards,

They weren’t my values or a life I wanted,

But they’d been normalised and therefore I believed it was how I should be.

To be accepted, 

Worthy, enough.

It never came.

Those feelings came with weight regain. 

But more, they came with working on my body image.

By building foundations that allow her to fluctuate, that allow us to take up space, to have a voice.

I’m not “body confident” but I don’t believe that exists, it’s a marketing tactic that simply prays on your vulnerability,

You’ll never be body confident because you’ll never love your body.

I am however confident IN MY BODY, in knowing who I am, in knowing my worth isn’t linked to her, in knowing what I offer the world outside of my body. 

I’m confident with my stretch marks, cellulite, excess skin, knowing they aren’t flaws at all but are actually decoration that make me who I am today.

Working on your body image is a fundamental part of your journey, without it that hatred, shame only intensifies, you become more obsessed, more crippled with body control. 

If you’ve ever felt the shame, like I did, about your body decoration, take a listen to the latest episode of the podcast where I discuss how to build acceptance. 

Listen Here

Enjoy - and remember shame isn't something you should carry.

Rebecca x